Happy new week people,
There is a saying that ‘when purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable’
You may be wondering how this relates to theasoebijunkie? This phrase came to my mind when I saw a post online, where someone wrote that —- ‘there is more to life than aso-ebi” and lots of comments followed this post as to how they are tired of the aso-ebi syndrome!
Some people mentioned that celebrants use aso-ebi to raise funds for their parties/events while others even made resolutions not to buy aso-ebi again or restrict themselves to a particular budget for aso-ebi within the year.
I actually felt bad after reading the post and the comments because aso-ebi is not meant to be a source of funds for your celebrations/occasions but it should be a unifying factor of your friends and family members as they come out to grace/honor you at your occasion.
Aso-ebi, which means family cloth in Yoruba language is being bastardized from the actual intent of the Yoruba culture which is to promote love and unity within the family.
Have heard people sell aso-ebi for ridiculous amount like N100, 000 (ahn! ahn! Kilode?) And some much more outrageous amount of which when their guests finally get the fabrics, the quality/value is nowhere near the amount they paid for it.
Aso- ebi is not meant to tear people’s pocket nor should it make them close their bank accounts.
So I will like us to break this myth that aso-ebi prices must be over the board before you can get good fabrics for your guests to attend your parties, which was what my new friend Bolatito (love her already) and I discussed this past week.
You can get quality aso-ebi for as low as N10, 000 or even less depending on your choice of fabric.Examples are: silk, chiffon, ankara,adire, guinea brocade for men and some lace fabrics.You can also make provision for your guest to buy in yards so that they can buy only the number of yards they need and not the whole 5/6yards. In the case of head-gears (gele), you don’t have to sell the whole pack, most people can not tie large/skyscraper gele. so you can cut one pack into two to reduce cost for your guests.
I urge us all to consider our friends and family member’s budget when choosing fabrics and do not let people cringe anymore when they hear the word –Asoebi.
Let the love and unity being displayed as they all wear one fabric to honor you be your ultimate goal.
I remember when my junior sister was getting married, my Late father (My Hero) actually paid for the aso-ebi of all his family members including extended family members. He gave it out to all of them for free because his delight was just to see everyone in that fabric.
So am encouraging us all not to abuse the aso-ebi tradition but try as much as possible to preserve the culture of bonding within the family as well as our friends while planning our events.